Thursday, May 18, 2017

Ladies Who Link: Kicking Off Summer


Hola! Thanks for joining me today as I link-up with my friends Sara and Trina of Moms' Coffee Date, Lisa of Coast to Coast, Tara of Mommy In A Nutshell, and Holly of Pink Lady! Today we're sharing our Memorial Day plans or how we kick off summer!

First off, I am forever grateful for the men and women who serve our country and for those who have given their lives so that we may be free- Thank you!


Texas has a bizarre law that was started over a decade ago and does not allow public schools to start before the 4th Monday in August. Due to the number of hours Texas students are legally required to be in school, most public schools here go to school for a few days after Memorial Day, so we don't go all out with any parties since we have to be at work the next morning. If you don't have to be to work the next day, then you should make my peach and cherry cobbler to take to your BBQ!


I'm a pretty strict mom, but since I'm not going to be working this summer, and my kids are another year older, I'm working on what Andrea at Momfessionals calls being a "Yes Mom." You can read her post HERE. One of the things that I've said yes to for a few years now is decorating our back door with window clings from the Target Dollar Spot. We usually have 4th of July decorations up all summer, but this year they had some more summery decorations. (We keep the cardinal up in the top left corner all year because that's our symbol for my Popo.) 


As summer approaches, I clean out our pool bags and outdoor toy buckets. Target is my go-to for picking up new pool bags and accessories. I got this bag in the Dollar Spot last year, and I use it to hold keys, phones, chargers, lip balm, etc. for our swim meets and/or trips to our neighborhood pool. I also picked up some mini sports balls for the pool and some summer stickers to give the kids on our first day of break. 


Usually the grocery store jacks up prices on things like toys, art supplies, books, etc. BUT, I would still encourage you to walk down those aisles every once in a while because you never know what will randomly be on clearance. This past weekend I found a card game that I think will be fun to play with the kids: Beat the Parents Ask Me Anything. I also picked up Rory's Story Cubes. I haven't opened them yet, but storytelling, summaries, and creative writing are often a struggle in our house, so I thought this would be a fun but sneaky way to get some language arts in over the summer. 


Although I'm counting down the days 'til summer break, I also have to start planning out doctor appointments, travel plans, and teacher workshops. I usually print out free calendars online for June, July, and August so that we can have them up on the fridge as reminders, in addition to our phone calendars.


The final thing I'm doing to kick off my summer is a pretty emotional topic for me, and I'm a little nervous to put this out there, but I'm doing so because you may be able to offer me some help or support. This past year has been a bit of a struggle with Trip. A few years ago, the school counselor "diagnosed" him as a perfectionist, and he would just completely melt down about things that seem silly to others - using a new paper instead of erasing, wanting to write with a crayon instead of a pencil, etc. 

We worked on that, and I feel like he has gotten over most of that issue, although he had a slip-up in school earlier this year. Trip is a great kid, and he is often complimented on his behavior by others. At home though, he struggles with listening and following directions. He is very emotional and still has big meltdowns when he is redirected. I think as teachers of older students, we have higher expectations for our kids than we should have for them at their given ages and when our directions aren't followed, we're not as patient as we should be. 

My pediatrician recommended the book How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk. I had started it over spring break and then got busy, but I'm making it a priority to read and practice with as soon as summer begins. It is imperative for me to become a better mom for my child and meet the needs of my son, so any advice is welcome. Sorry for the downer!


Thanks for joining us today! What are you doing to kick off your summer? Share in the comments below, and make sure to join us again in June to share what you're up to over the break, what you're cooking, and what you're planning! I'll see you right back here tomorrow for Friday Favorites!

22 comments:

  1. Will be thinking of you and praying for you this summer- that books looks like a great resource- you will have to keep us posted!

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    1. Thank you, Holly! I tried out some of the tips listed at the beginning with some of my students back in March, and it was going well, so hopefully I'll be a pro with my own kids this summer! Thanks for co-hosting!

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  2. I'm sorry about your worries with Trip. I'm sure it's so stressful for you. My kids are a little younger but I have similar issues with Hank. He is emotional and particular (as all kids his age probably are) but a months ago he started having bad panic attacks. Panic attacks! At three years old! My first Mommy instinct was to protect him from anything that may be a trigger. This included school. Logically I knew I needed to guide him through it because there was no way I could "fix it" for him. We have made GREAT strides recently.

    With the perfectionism, I let him see me make mistakes a LOT more and show him how mistakes happen. If I spill something I don't get annoyed at myself. I just say "oh, silly me" and smile at him while I clean it up.

    He still has plenty of moments, but I try to just stay with him and provide reassurance. He HATES when I say "you're fine" when he's having a moment bc he doesn't FEEL fine. I tell him "it will get better" and I pray that it does.

    Sorry for the wall of text, lol.

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    1. Thank you for the reassurance, Tara! You're so right about needing to model for our kids the best way to respond to a mistake or incident. When Trip was in kinder, we did some research and got the book Beautiful Oops by an artist named Barney Salzburg to read with him. He also has some YouTube videos- Hank would like it. Thanks for co-hosting!

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  3. I understand exactly what you are saying with parenting your child. I think I spent a good amount of time parenting my children with too high of expectations. The results may have been different but ultimately, I think I created a child with a habit for people pleasing and perfectionism. Another great book is Have A New Kid By Friday by Dr. Kevin Leman. This really helped me to give the expectations back to my child for his/herself and remind me to concentrate on parenting, love, and discipline. Don't be too hard on yourself. You know there are worse things that could be your parenting story. The important thing is turning it around for your son :)

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    1. Nicole- your message was exactly what I needed after a crazy morning at our house! Thank you so much for that and for the book recommendation. You are such an inspiration as a military wife, and you and your family have my appreciation!

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  4. Minnesota is similar-it has become common to not start school back up until a week into September! But now kids are often in school through June 6th or so. Yikes! I love all of these things-it makes me so excited for summers with my kiddos once they get a summer 'break'. :-)

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    1. I think it is just silly to be in school this long or at this time period. It's too dang hot to be in a classroom trying to focus on finals and projects!

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  5. I've heard so many good things about that book! The hardest part of parenting is figuring out how to parent each child. My 3 girls are all SO different, what works for one doesn't work with the others. Can be frustrating. Hugs to you mama, you are doing an amazing job with them!!

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    1. Thank you, Cara! You are so right- my kids are night and day! The other hard thing is that sometimes I feel like a natural father/son mother/daughter pairing occurs and I just don't get the same quality time with Trip that I'd like that I get with Ari. Hoping to change all of that soon. Thanks for linking up with us!

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  6. Not a downer at all! We all have struggles with our kids! It is good you are willing to work on it and be open about it! I have tried to read that book too and I didn't get very far. I might need to read it with you this summer!
    Also, the cobbler looks amazing! And... I LOVE the Yes Mom idea! Thanks as always for co-hosting and being our fearless leader! :)

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    1. There's a lot of good info in the book, but I'm having to make little cheat sheets for myself in each section. Thanks for co-hosting!

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  7. We need to do something about changing that Texas law, Girl!

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    1. No joke! Next year, we're going to be going to school longer each day and still getting out in June- ugh!

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  8. Come August I will be wishing I lived in Texas. We keep starting earlier and earlier! Boo! But I will enjoy getting out before Memorial Day for now!! I love peaches and cherries, so I want to try that cobbler!!!

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    1. If you lived in Texas, you'd be over summer by the beginning of August and would want to start school again- it is so hot! It's already in the 90s now, and we have no A/C at school today- YAY! I am actually starting back to work on July 31st part time and then we go back to work full time mid August.

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  9. I love all things summer! I'm ready for some hot sunny days! :) I'll be praying for wisdom for you. Parenting is hard, especially with each kid being so different. What works for one doesn't always work for the next. It's hard in the moment, but things can change so quickly. Praying things look up soon! :)

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  10. Well poo.....I totally did not even pull out my planner this week and totally forgot about this linkup!! Hang in there with Trip. He sounds ALOT like my Riley. I seriously would get to my wits end and decide it was time to get counseling and then he would mature a bit. He was the same about making mistakes and wanting to be perfect. He would always get so frustrated and tell me he could not get what was in his head to come out right. Parenting is tough stuff....why doesn't anyone tell you that?!! haha

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    1. Definitely need a parenting manual or a mute button at times! :)

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  11. Hi Allie,

    Another great resource for kids is Celebrate Calm. We have had Kirk come to our school twice and I have found his talks so helpful. He does workshops at schools for free and you can also sign up for his newsletter.

    Patty
    GoodBetterBestFood.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks for the resource, Patty! I'll look into it this weekend.

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