Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Show & Tell Tuesday: Struggles

Happy Tuesday! Thanks for joining me today as I link up with Andrea at Momfessionals to share about some of my struggles. This is an interesting topic, and I hope it's not too much of a bummer!


I'd say my biggest struggle in the past few years has been maintaining a weight that makes me feel confident. I have ulcerative colitis, so I go through periods of time on Prednisone and other steroids that have ridiculous side effects. It'll take me just 2 weeks to gain 10 pounds but then months to take the extra weight off. 

The other issue is that I'm pretty sure I have some sort of food addiction. I love food, and I love food that's terrible for you. I didn't grow up eating fruits, vegetables, salads, and a variety of fish, so at 31, I'm not a terribly "adventurous" eater. One of my students brought me a mango a few years ago to try since I had never had one, and I'm still not a convert. 

I know that I'm capable of losing the weight and keeping it off. You can read about my successful experience this past winter with my favorite app, My Fitness Pal, in THIS post. I need to buckle down and just get these last few pounds off for good! Luckily, I enjoy my workouts, so if I can match my diet to my workouts, I'll be good. Did you check out today's Tuesday Training post


With the advent of social media, I think another struggle I deal with is envy. I know that most people are showing only the highlight reel, and I also know that Robert and I are pretty responsible with our money. We've paid off both of our cars, have money from his grandmother put away for the majority of the kids' college tuition, and we don't live beyond our means. We pay off our credit cards and simply just don't buy what we can't afford. 

That being said, I'm still quite envious of the people who are able to travel often either with their spouse or their whole family. And of course I'm jealous of the women who can afford to purchase $50 pants and $100 shoes. Are these people actually able to pay for these expenses each month or are they racking up debt on their purchases and vacations? I don't know, but I do know that comparison is the thief of joy. A girl can dream though, especially about a tropical vacation, right?  


The last struggle is one that I don't feel I struggle with really but more something I do that others struggle with - I'm the same person to everyone I meet. I'm not going to act one way with co-workers and a different way with friends. I am who I am, and I think people will tell you that I call it like I see it and tell it like it is. I'm not going to suck up to you and pretend to be someone I'm not so that you'll like me, and it's pretty much scientifically impossible for me to be fake and play nice just for show- that one infuriates Robert, but I just can't do it. 

I think along those same lines, if you've earned my trust and respect, I'm a true blue friend. I'm 100% guilty of being loyal to a fault, and I don't partake in one-sided friendships. You do me wrong, you're out. I'm definitely not someone who has thousands of Facebook friends, and I'm okay with that. You either love me or hate me, but don't expect me to change to become your friend. 

Do you struggle with similar things? Have you had success in overcoming your struggles? Tell me about it in the comments below!

I'm back tomorrow for another link-up, and then on Thursday, my blogging buddies Lisa, Holly, TaraTrina and Sara, and I are hosting our monthly link-up to share about our summer fun and plans! I hope you'll join us! See you soon!


30 comments:

  1. I LOVED this post- it is funny, even through blogging, how you can tell someone's character and these words did not surprise me about you- you are an inspiration to me and I know how social media can really make us jealous- I struggle with that too!

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    1. Thanks, Holly! Come to Texas and teach me how to cook! :)

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  2. Such an awesome post!!! I feel you on the social media! I find myself wishing I had a home and decor like others and then I remember I have 2 beagles. That reminds me that I'd be so stressed trying to upkeep an immaculate home and I'm happy with all the dog hair & toys;) Also I LOVE how true you are too yourself!

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    1. Thanks, Rechelle! I'm definitely not going to be a blogger who showcases her home any time soon! We've got kids and we actually live in our home- it's not meant to be a museum!

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  3. Yep to all of that! I feel like 98% of the blogs I read I wonder how they pay for everything, lol!

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    1. Well, I know that some of the bloggers make just a ridiculous amount on affiliate blogging. I'm fine with that, and I have affiliate links for Target on mine, but I'm only linking the products that we actually use. I have stopped reading some bloggers who will purposely link an outfit or product that they don't like/recommend just to get the clicks or who will link something but not display pictures of it on their site. I also think that there are a lot of people out there who don't mind living in debt if it means they're going to get what they want right now.

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  4. Oh Al...we are so much alike. I struggle with my body image really hardcore. I will never be happy with what I look like and I will always beat myself up to do more. I get slack and then I hate myself. Woo hoo. Envy - um yeah! I don't fit into the blog world because I'm not filthy rich with a Nordstrom addiction. Seriously, you have caught on to this I'm straight up Target/Walmart almost all the time. But hey to each their own I'm fine over here being middle class and making it! Finally, I cannot put on a show for people either. I cannot stand two faced folks and that is why here in my little corner of the world I keep to myself. I live in a map dot that is filled with catty/fakes and yeah...I should stop there. LOL You are fabulous, you are great, and I'm so glad we're "virtual" buddies!

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    1. I've stopped clicking on certain bloggers' Nordstrom and Rstyle links, especially when they won't even preview the outfit in their post. Glad we can be outsiders together! :)

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  5. Weight management is something I struggle with too! Your words are encouraging and inspirational! And, let me add...I didn't really even like my car until it was paid off! Now, I love it and hope it runs for ten more year!
    www.jenonajourney.com

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    1. If only vegetables were more tasty! I actually have always loved my cars, but I'm with you- these are going to be our kids' first cars in 10 years. Car payments definitely free up the dough!

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  6. Love this!! I share your addiction with food. And add pop to that. Coke especially. I'm also not an adventurous eater. I sometimes worry that I really need to do better. I'm not getting any younger and definitely not any healthier! I don't even work out! I definitely want to be the same everywhere I am. I strive to be and hope that others would say that of me. :) Great post!

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    1. Well, what makes me mad is that I gave up soda in high school, and I haven't had alcohol in 8 years! Why the heck am I not a supermodel yet!?!

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  7. I could have wrote this post myself! YES! I struggle with all of this. I look at peoples Instagrams, blogs, Facebooks and wonder the same things. We live by Dave Ramsey and it can be SO hard. I just want a pair of shoes :) Haha! But then I think about being a kindergarten teacher and well, I just can't stand the thought of walking out of my classroom at the end of a day with a $40 top and $100 shoes with glue, paint, and whatever else on them. I also have an addiction with food and struggle with my image as well. This is probably one of the hardest things for me. Thank you for sharing!

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    1. Let's start a food addiction support group and we can all cry around cupcakes! Darn sweets get me every time! At the end of the day, I have to just remember that we're doing what's best for our family so that we can have a better future. I'd hate to be ten years down the line and trying to pick up an extra job to make ends meet.

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  8. I totally cannot fake it either...it's a blessing and a curse for sure. Oh envy...I'm so much better about this now than ever in my life but at times it still creeps in and it is typically always over vacations or new homes. We have made lots of choices to put us in the position we are in now and I often have to remind myself I am living MY life based on the decisions I made over time and not someone elses. But really...could we not just have a rich relative leave us some dinero or win the lotto?!!

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    1. LOL! No joke- where's my billionaire long lost uncle when I need him? We need to start a tv show like that Wife Swap but do House Swap so we minions can go live in a castle for a week! :)

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  9. Good post. I'm a similar tell it like it is person & honestly, I'm a "I don't need you to like me" kind of gal. That was a really freeing discovery about myself!

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  10. I love you girl and your real, true self. Ask anyone and they will tell you that I am an open book. I totally hear you on the food. I know it's supposed to be "eat to live, not live to eat", but gosh darn it I love to eat...especially sweets! I've seriously considered going on an all dessert diet before. I'd much rather have a big brownie with ice cream than a steak. It's a struggle to keep those pounds off. People assume because you are small you eat what you want. They don't realize you are small because you work at it. Kent and I have always been the same way it sounds like you and Robert are. We've always paid off credit cards each month (in fact, we are a credit card company's worst nightmare. Ours are no fee and cash back...they're paying us...LOL) We pay cash whenever we get a new vehicle and so on. I am CONSTANTLY asking myself how these young bloggers are doing it? Where's the money coming from? So in summary...you nailed it. A lot of us feel the same as is evident in all these comments. One of my prayers is for contentment! Happy Tuesday...and our link up is Thursday, not tomorrow...right???

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    1. Ok so lately your writing makes me hear different characters! Today it's Stuart Smalley from 90s Saturday Night Live, "And gosh darn it...people like me!" Robert is always looking for the cash back rewards so he'll send me reminders that I need to stock up on the groceries this month or get lots of gas another month! Yes, our link up is Thursday- I'm linking up for Erika's tomorrow about entertaining kids in the summer.

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  11. Ok so the money thing - GIRL, I AM SO WITH YOU ON THAT!! Brian and I JUST had a conversation about that last night. Where the heck do people get all this money?!?! He and I both work and we make pretty good money together, but we certainly do not live in a mansion, nor do we drive fancy cars or have a pool in our back yard, and I certainly cannot imagine paying $100 for a pair of shoes or $125 for a pair of jeans!! I'm an Old Navy and Target girl through and through. Once in a blue moon I will splurge a little bit if I have a gift card or if it's for a birthday gift or something, but other than that, I am a bargain shopper. My whole point of this, though, is that I have NO CLUE where people are getting all of this money to have all of this stuff. It seems like everyone lives in a humongous custom home, drives huge fancy SUVs with leather seats, travels to Turks and Caicos every other weekend, owns half of Nordstrom, and buys lipstick and self tanner that costs more than my electric bill for the month. I say good for them, but seriously WHERE DO THEY GET ALL OF THAT MONEY?! Lol.

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    1. Too funny about the electric bill- you're so right! My water bill for the month was less than a necklace that some bloggers tote as being "a steal!" LOL! Robert freaked out when I bought him a ticket for Guns N Roses this summer because he thought I spent $500 like the tickets here in Houston instead of the $100 tickets for the show in St. Louis!

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  12. The comparison game is SO hard! I think we are similar to you and your husband; we try to be very responsible with our money, but that means few date nights (and when we have them they are simple and cheap), almost no trips, and our new house is pretty bare because I can't justify buying things to decorate it! It helps to remember exactly what you said; we are seeing the highlight reel and have no idea what is going on behind the pretty pictures!

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    1. Yep- I may not wear designer duds or have dinner at the yuppy restaurant every other night, but I have a husband that I love and 2 awesome kids. I think those are things that money just can't buy! We need to brainstorm some ideas for date nights at home!

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  13. I'm right there with you girl! I don't know how some people live the way they do. I mean, I'll take the fancy vacations any day but all of that other STUFF just seems wasteful and the amount of clutter it would create would drive me bonkers. I always wonder if all these things are comped or if they are returning half of the stuff after they showcase it. The food addiction is fierce over here too. I'm a basic eater and my diet pretty much just consists of carbs and sugar.

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    1. Why doesn't the gummy bear diet from Romy and Michelle's High School Reunion work!? :)

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  14. I love, love, LOVE how real & raw this post is!! THANK YOU! Girlfriend, I'm a bargain/clearance/consignment shop shopper & have no shame!! 😉 Happy Tuesday!

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    1. Thanks, Whitney! I'm excited to visit your blog! I think our kids are similar in age! Yes- definitely love TJ Maxx and Marshalls- why buy the $50 Nordstrom top when you can find the exact brand way cheaper at TJs!?

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  15. Yes, to everything you said and also what Amanda said in the comments. Regarding the social media envy and fancy shopping habits, for awhile I tried to jump on that bandwagon. And then I realized that's just not me...I'm not into fashion and definitely not into paying a lot for stuff. Thanks for the honesty!

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    1. I used to be so into fashion, like real fashion- not this overpriced Nordstrom stuff- and could just look at a piece and tell you that it was Marc Jacobs, Carolina Herrera, Oscar de la Renta, etc. I loved shopping and design, and now I'm almost to the point that I'd prefer someone else to go find me clothes to wear (but not pay more than $20 per piece!) It's funny how priorities and interests change over the years, but I think keeping up with the Joneses has never been on my radar and never will.

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